I suck!

[nursedarry]

I fail at fandom at the moment. I apologise and hope to make amends, but don't expect too much too soon - RL, as good as it's been, is eating my brain!

* I love my new(ish) job. I say newish as it's the same job, but in a different location. Which means I have to learn a completely new geography and work with completely new people. Which I love, as I've said, but also requires a lot of time and energy at the moment.

* I love my new town. (See above for excuses for why this is taking up time and energy.) It also means kids are getting used to a new school (or they were before summer holidays), are making new friends and are wanting to go everywhere of interest in the NW, which means (see above).

* We've found a great house we want to buy. It's large, full of character and 218 years old, which means extensive and expensive surveys and delay, delay, delay. I'm on the phone almost every day arranging things to do with the purchase. BUT, when it's ours, it will be brilliant, because it's going to be a great place for having friends over. Wo0T! And family. Wo0T? Which yes, means we may be hosting the family Christmas, which is going to (see above blah, blah, blah).

* My health is getting better and better. I've been slowly fixing all the fiddly things that needed fixing but that got put on hold during the cardiac woes (teeth, primarily), BUT as the nearest NHS dentist is 10 miles away and the kids need to go there too (see above, yadda yadda yadda). Although, I'm not sure why I even bothered with an NHS dentist. Even with NHS rates, what I've needed has been so expensive, I've probably paid the difference in petrol.

Anyway, what this boils down to is that I won't be A) doing any holiday exchange fests this year and B) not attending the HP Meet-Up. *sadface*

What I will be doing is spending a week in Edinburgh during August if anyone wants to get together then, and also signing up for hd_remix (if it's happening and there's oodles of writing time) and hds_beltane. If I can manage it, I might give mini_fest a go, if that's running, but I can't promise anything.

I'll pop up shortly to say happy birthday to July (belatedly) and August flisties as soon as I can sort out where to find all the birthdays - I thought even though the homepage changed, there was still a list somewhere. Help?

MISS YOU ALL! MISS FANDOM.

I'LL BE BACK.

Comments

[jtsbbsps-dk.livejournal.com]

hi darling, thanks for the update :))) glad to hear things are good, although busy! ♥
Also exciting news about the house :D it sounds brilliant!! although the long drawn out-ness sounds tedious.

I miss you, too!! *all the hugs!!!*

[nursedarry.livejournal.com]

Thank you! I miss you too. So glad you Twitter!

[jtsbbsps-dk.livejournal.com]

Yeah, you too!! :DD

[birdsofshore]

Nice to see you! And very glad to hear about all of the good news. The house sounds exciting - does it have room for a slash writing den? :D

[nursedarry.livejournal.com]

IT DOES!! There's a snug off the kitchen for just that thing!

[kitty_fic]

*clings*

It's always good to hear from you <3

[nursedarry.livejournal.com]

Thank you! Hope all is good (better) with you:)

[arineat.livejournal.com]

This is a Good News post! Be sure to take and post pics of the new house when you can!

[nursedarry.livejournal.com]

I can do that now! I put it up on Twitter ages ago, but I think you might have been just a little busy around then...

[jtsbbsps-dk.livejournal.com]

oh my god, it looks AMAZING!!!

[dysonrules.livejournal.com]

*SQUISHES*

I miss you, bebe! I hope you have time again to blather at me again soon. :D :D :D

[nursedarry.livejournal.com]

Oh, I'll ALWAYS have time for that!

[dysonrules.livejournal.com]

WOOHOO! :D

[cassie-black12.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry, who are you again??

[nursedarry.livejournal.com]

The woman with the keys to your basement. (But not the keys to the handcuffs:)

[scabbyfish.livejournal.com]

Not doing the meet-up?! BUT BUT BUT!!

[nursedarry.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry :( Maybe next time. Right now I've got too much on my plate. But I'll toast you all in spirit! (Or with spirits, maybe:)))

[delphipsmith]

What do you mean you don't have time to write HD pr0n? Who are you and what have you done with my friend Darry???

(LOVE the pics of the new house -- a "character property" lol! You are the biggest character I know :) It might even be enough to get me on a *gulp* aeroplane!!)

[nursedarry.livejournal.com]

Actually, even if I had the time, I'm all about my True Blood OTP atm, as the show's back on.

But I always have time to READ ANY PRoN if you're writing it.

[enchanted-jae.livejournal.com]

[nursedarry.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry, Miss. Really. I promise it won't happen again, Miss. Please don't spank me. Spank Fifi, instead!

[alisanne.livejournal.com]

Thank you for the update, sweetie! I'm so glad things are going well for you health and life wise. ♥ All the rest is just stuff and it all comes after taking care of you and yours. :)

[nursedarry.livejournal.com]

I know, but...I miss fandom. And you. Glad to see your name often on my flist when I'm scrolling. ♥

[sassy-cissa.livejournal.com]

Sounds like the move is fabulous!! but...

I MISS YOU!!!

[nursedarry.livejournal.com]

NOT AS MUCH AS I MISS YOU!!! If I don't make it over between now and 2015, I'll definitely be over then in August, so start planning now!
(My dad's 100th will be 19 Aug 2015) I'll make sure to get to Chi-Town!!

[sassy-cissa.livejournal.com]

Good Lord! 100!!

But seriously I hope you make it back before then. 2 years is way too long!!

[mayfly-78.livejournal.com]

Great to see things are going so well! I demand a huge pic-heavy post with the new 218 year-old house once you get it. Plus your village and other such things!

*hugs*

[nursedarry.livejournal.com]

There's a link to the advert for it in my response to Arineat :D

MISS YOU, BB!

[mayfly-78.livejournal.com]

Ooh, nice. It has a lot of potential and is very big! The further away from London you get, the bigger the house you can afford.

Miss you too!

[riverlight.livejournal.com]

Nice to see an update from you!

[nursedarry.livejournal.com]

THANK YOU! I've missed reading your stuff and chatting. Lemme know if you need any betas. THAT I can make time for!!!

[riverlight.livejournal.com]

Ooh, I totally will. Remind me what fandoms you're reading in these days?

(I did just update—I think they are crossposting.)

[nursedarry.livejournal.com]

Ack - sorry late reply is late!

You and I share the GK fandom, mostly, I think. Although we like different ships.

I mostly read HP and True Blood, but also like the Avengers stuff, depending on ships - mostly Tony/Steve, Thor/Steve and Thorki.

[riverlight.livejournal.com]

Oh, no worries at all! Sometimes real life has to take precedence over internet time, I know. :)

Ah, okay. I mean, I ask because—who knows?—you could have gotten into a new fandom lately. (I've fallen headfirst into Inception, much to my own surprise.)

Gosh, I haven't read HP in years, but every so often I'll get hit with a burst of nostalgia, and just wallow in old loved stories. Such fun.

[nursedarry.livejournal.com]

I loved Inception, but alas, the "main" ship sailed without me. I much prefer Cobb/Saito. Yes, yes, I know, probably squicked you. It does everyone else...

Actually, if you want to get technical, it's Saito/Cobb.

[riverlight.livejournal.com]

Yeah, it never did get me. The "they were hardly on screen together" argument hardly works, in this scenario, given that I ship Arthur/Eames, but—still, that's what I feel like saying! Then again, one of the things I love about fans is our creativity; if someone can make me buy Cobb/Saito I'm all for it.

Wait, why is it Saito/Cobb? What piece of fandom etiquette am I missing, here?

[nursedarry.livejournal.com]

There's a school of thought that whoever is on THIS/ side of the slash line is the top.

Personally, I never bought into that as I'm all about switching in every slash pairing I read/write. I don't go for the whole (top/bottom thing). In yaoi it's called "reversible". Love that.

[riverlight.livejournal.com]

Yeah, exactly, that's why I was confused. I think I came into slash fandom just late enough to miss that trend, if trend you could call it—or perhaps never was in a fandom where this held sway. I just figure—I've seen enough examples of sexuality being complicated and messy and confusing that that kind of "rule" seems puzzling to me. Like, remember the days of WNGWJLEO ("we're not gay, we just love each other") stories? Dira and I were talking about that a few weeks ago; there was such a backlash against stories like that after a while, the gist being that they were homophobic, if I recall. But I've known people for whom that exact dynamic holds true in their marriage—they were straight before meeting their same-sex partner, and in all probability might be straight should they ever marry again, but at this point in their life they are gay. So that kind of fannish putting-people-into-boxes always confuses me.

/tl;dr, sorry!

[nursedarry.livejournal.com]

I'm not fussed what other people are too fussed over, I just read fic because it makes me feel all steamy. I've never been a big romance fan and I'm more about the sex. I love first time fics particularly and not as concerned about the motives for why they're together. I don't like infidelity fic, but as long as that's not involved, anything goes.

I love "hate-you-but-can't-keep-my-hands-off-you" Harry Potter H/D fic, but don't like established relationship fic (unless they're constantly bickering). However, I love established relationship True Blood G/E fic, and don't like to see them fighting each other that much - probably THE ONLY couple I currently read that I care about the romance. In GenKill and Inception, I like "Don't-completely-understand-why/what-we're-doing-but-it-feels-good-and-I-fancy-you" fic.

And in all cases, I love switching :)

[riverlight.livejournal.com]

Ohhhh gosh, the "hate-you-but-can't-keep-my-hands-off-you" Harry Potter H/D fic. How I love that! I do pretty much always want happy endings, but hey, that's possible, right? At least in the without-epilogue camp. (I confess to not having finished reading the series...)

There's so much amazing stuff out there. I'm consistently stunned by how—even if a fic doesn't do it for me—it does it for someone. Look at us, fulfilling our own kinks via writing and reading!

[nursedarry.livejournal.com]

Oh yes, happy endings are usually a must for me, although occasionally, I do want it vague (I can see my GK OTP ending that way) or even unhappy (most of my TB OTP fics end that way, because that's what happened in canon).

I agree, there's usually SOMEONE who likes the same, but then I always run the risk of OOCness or a squick that also gets thrown. For instance, often in H/D fics that get me going, Draco ends up too feminine or too sex!god for my taste. And there's also a risk of my True Blood OTP being too D/s-y or just too OOC with everyone else they encounter. Oh well, that's when we have to write it themselves OURSELVES, even!

Gah! Trying to do too many things at one this afternoon!

[riverlight.livejournal.com]

Yay for us writing it ourselves. Now if only I wrote faster...

[nenne.livejournal.com]

Good to see you. *hugs*

Good luck with getting organised and finding your way around and buying a house and fixing your teeth and all. You do keep busy!

[nursedarry.livejournal.com]

Hello darling! I was JUST talking about you last night! I remember you posting a photo you took from your kitchen window and saying that I need/want to come visit you and just sit there for hours enjoying the view.

I still feel that way!

[nenne.livejournal.com]

And you are still very much welcome to do just that! :)

The house looks great! I found the link in the comments. Nice big rooms and lovely outdoor area.

[nursedarry.livejournal.com]

THANKS. I forgot to mention, the price that's advertised on that link isn't what we're paying :D Although it's damn close.

I'm trying to organise a trip to Scandinavia and you're definitely on the list!

[nenne.livejournal.com]

I was just curious: With who did you actually talk about me? (Strange sentence)

[nursedarry.livejournal.com]

LOL! Funnily enought, it was the current owners of the house we're buying. We were over there last night having a glass a wine and talking about holidays we would like to take in the future!